Monday, September 10, 2012

The Hardest Part of All {Mindful Mothering Mondays}




Although I entered motherhood at a young age, by today's standards, I thought I had a pretty good grasp of what it took to be a decent mother.  I was raised in a larger than average family and homeschooled so I had a front row seat to daily life as a Mom.  At least, I thought I did.




I watched my Mom rock babies and kiss the scraped up palms of hysterical toddlers.  I saw her cook and clean with a song in her heart and a babe on her hip.  I could do that...right?


The truth is, the difficult parts of being a Mom aren't found in the blackness of sleepless nights, or the stark slopes of laundry mountains.  The biggest struggle isn't in the changing of twelve diapers a day, potty training accidents or breastfeeding struggles.  Caring for a whole family in the throes of a stomach bug is like child's play next to the real, bone crushing, soul deep struggles that Mothering brings.  The ones that make you face down your very own self, seeing failures and flaws daily showcased.


Coming in contact with the humanness of knowing exactly who and where you want to be, and falling short day after day after day.

But perhaps therein lies the importance of it all.  This work cannot be boiled down to a cook/clean/childcare/chauffeur position.  No true pricetag can be placed on it.  How does one quantify the costs and benefits of a job that rips down to your raw soul and yet gives you the strength and motivation to continue on?  This is no desk job, no 9-5, "leave work at the office" kind of position.   This is a life, a calling that seamlessly blends the service of others, sacrifice of self and the searching of soul.


Mothering requires us to take a long, hard look at who we fundamentally are, warts and all.  There is no brushing it under the rug, no ignoring the mess.  It stares us down each and every day.  But when you see that, when you are forced to acknowledge the flaws in you, that is when you can begin to do something about it.

The hardest part of all is also the best part of all.  Even as you end your day knowing how you've once again messed it up, you can look forward to a a new day, mercies springing up in the sunshine, and resolve to do, and be...better







{It's Mindful Mothering Mondays, a day to take a deep breath and write out your mothering journey, whatever form it takes.  A day to link up for encouragement from others who are in this same phase of life.  A day of writing out the trials and triumphs and what you're learning right where you are, right now. 

You might post recent struggles or thoughts.  Maybe just a picture or a quote.  Or maybe you'll just come here and read the links that others post.  Whatever form your participation takes, this is a day for you.
We are all in this, together.  Together, we can encourage and build one another up, be honest with our shortcomings and strengthened by community to keep fighting the good fight.

I chose Mondays because what Mama doesn't need a little encouragement on a Monday? As such, I'll have the link up ready to go on Sunday night for you to begin submitting your links.

I hope you'll meet with me each Monday!  Here's what to do ~

Link up your post below.  Remember to put the link to the exact post you want to link, and not just your blog url. Include in your post a link back here so others who want to join in can find us!  And visit some other Mamas who have linked up.

Post the community graphic within your post, so people who are reading your Mindful Mothering post can come back here and find the rest of us!

Invite the writers of your favorite blogs to join in!

Share this meme with others on facebook and twitter.  This community is for all moms, and the more that participate, the more we will be able to enjoy!!}


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14 comments:

  1. Your words always inspire me. I wish I lived just down the road and we could get together and have tea. You would be a great influence on me.

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  2. The hardest "job" with the greatest reward! So thankful for the new mercies that each day brings!!:)

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    1. Yes! A promise to cling to for sure!

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  3. You are right. That is the hardest part of mothering. And the most rewarding. I am constantly reminding myself that this is not something that is 'happening' to me, if you know what I mean. I am building muscle, God is doing His work of sanctification. I will grow stronger, gentler, kinder and more Christ-like- year by year.

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    1. Yes, Lauren! And as a Mom who has been at it for 10 (yikes!) years, I am beginning to see the fruits of these hard years in my own spiritual walk. It is what keeps me going!

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  4. Loved this!! I tried to link up today but I cannot grab your meme image...any idea what I might be doing wrong? I tried to copy & paste in Wordpress, but no go. :(

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    1. Oh no! I will have my tech-y husband look into that. Thanks!

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  5. Ah... wonderful post! I just started a blog for my MOPS group, so I linked today's post up. I truly hope our girls learn as much from these precious writings as I have in the last few weeks!

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  6. The other hardest part of mothering is to see them grow and become adults and have children of their own and you pray you can have some small influence on them along with the second generation.

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    1. I'm not there yet, but I know what you say is true. I often think ahead to those years and to the encouragement I hope to be to those young mamas. A wonderful opportunity!

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  7. Wonderful post!! So glad to have a new day each day to do better than the day before.

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    1. Thank you, Kim. Each day is filled to the brim with brand new grace.

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  8. Amen, Lydia. This journey definitely makes me understand a little of my Father's heart and how he looks at us. Thank Goodness that morning by morning new mercies I see!!

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