Monday, June 3, 2013

A Day of Doing Nothing {Mindful Mothering Mondays}

I get nothing done.  At least, that's what I think most days.  I flop down on the couch after dinner with the baby and say it out loud.  Today I just couldn't get anything done.

I see it on facebook, other Moms bemoaning the same thing.  We can't just seem to get any momentum to these days.  By the time you get it in your grasp, it's time for dinner, or baths, or you're just too dang tired from doing nothing all day to do anything about it.  I think about it while waiting to go to sleep at night, frustrated with myself.  With 24 hours in a day, what really is my excuse?

I start out the day by nursing two babies and changing a few diapers.  I start coffee and unload the dishwasher and take breakfast requests and I get nothing done.  I sip coffee and do bible and read out loud. I start laundry and sweep floors and I get nothing done.

I take littles outside and push kids on swings, more nursing and more diapers and more getting nothing done. I change kids into bathing suits and watch them in the pool, knitting a couple rounds before the baby fusses too much.  I put the baby down for a nap and start lunch and get nothing done.

I answer emails and call a friend to check up on her.  I make dinner and return library books and change kids out of bathing suits and throw them onto bikes.  We walk around the block a few times and I still haven't gotten anything done.  Someone gets hurt and I kiss their ouchie, someone gets in a fight and I break it up, someone needs a time out and I try to be stern.  My bed is still unmade when I take the baby up to put her to bed.  She won't sleep and I change more diapers, put the baby on my back and make sure Ben's baseball uniform is clean.  I do another load of laundry, fold and put away the first and I get nothing done.

I visit with my brother and niece and we talk and bond and I serve dinner.  That kitchen is a mess again, I load the dishwasher and wipe counters and I get nothing done.  I find shoes for everyone, wipe faces and remind them to go to the bathroom (change more diapers, nurse more babies) and throw everyone in the car to head to the game.  I get nothing done.

We get home and I wash dirty grubby feet and make kids brush their teeth and resist their begging to watch a movie and spend a half hour convincing them to go to bed.  I come down stairs with the baby who still won't sleep, sit on the couch and look around.  By the testimony of this messy house, I've done nothing all day.  So it must be so.  I fall asleep on the couch a few moments later, exhausted by my completely non-productive day.

Finally I schlep to bed and lay awake a moment, feeling guilty at my complete lack of motivation and bizarre ability to do nothing all day long.  I wonder why I don't answer phone calls or emails in a timely manner, or why I can't manage to keep on top of the most basic of responsibilities.  And why on earth I am so, so tired.


{It's Mindful Mothering Mondays, a day to take a deep breath and write out your mothering journey, whatever form it takes. A day to link up for encouragement from others who are in this same phase of life. A day of writing out the trials and triumphs and what you're learning right where you are, right now.

You might post recent struggles or thoughts. Maybe just a picture or a quote. Or maybe you'll just come here and read the links that others post. Whatever form your participation takes, this is a day for you.
We are all in this, together. Together, we can encourage and build one another up, be honest with our shortcomings and strengthened by community to keep fighting the good fight.

I chose Mondays because what Mama doesn't need a little encouragement on a Monday? As such, I'll have the link up ready to go on Sunday night for you to begin submitting your links.

I hope you'll meet with me each Monday! Here's what to do ~

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  1. Awesome post! It's amazing how much "nothing" gets done during the day and we still aren't satisfied.

  2. This is relative to every busy person, parent or not! The "things" we get done are not things at all... they are far more important.

  3. I had to read this's that good!

  4. Beautiful. A mothers life in a nutshell. Glad you had such a good, full and non-productive day.

  5. Every single thing you write is exactly what I was thinking about that day. This is perfect!

  6. I needed this tonight as I didn't even approach my very reasonable and short to-do list today...between tired toddlers and a fussy baby, I got nothing done! Not even 1 stitch of knitting! But we got in a lot of pool time, dinner from scratch , dishes washed, lots of diapers and nursing, baths complete, stories and snuggles... So little accomplished, but so much of great import done!

  7. I know that feeling well. Thankfully my husband is good at showing me that all those "nothings" add up!...K

  8. I know what you mean about reasonable and short to do small it's amazing that you can go a whole day and not touch them at all! I just need to keep reminding myself that just doing what is in front of me is what I am called to today...and you too!

  9. What a blessing an encouraging husband is!

  10. Yes. I need to know that maybe what today holds is not what I planned...but is always what He planned.

  11. Beautifully said. You articulated my thoughts and feelings so well. As a mother, its the "nothings" that are most important. The walks, talks and kisses make a lifetime of difference and it won't matter if my laundry has to wait until tomorrow. :)


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