Monday, August 13, 2012

What Your Are Really Telling Your Kids {Mindful Mothering Mondays}

"Children learn early in the life that life is either a gift to be enjoyed or a burden to bear."
~Dr. John Bowlby

How I live my life speaks volumes to my children.  The more I stumble along this path of choosing joy and gratitude, the more I see how the opposite can negatively affect the small people in my life.  If I choose to live each day as a nuisance and a burden, I am raising them to do the same.  I am stealing their joy.

I know that words have power, to build up or tear down.  I know that the words I choose to tell myself can make or break my attitude toward life.  But what about those words that just float out there for anyone to hear...and what of these children who listen to what I say all day long?

When I am cleaning up around the house and muttering about the mess, a natural byproduct of a house full of kids. When I "vent" on the phone to a friend about how my kids are driving me crazy.  When I heap on sarcasm out of irritability and impatience.

While at home, I can feel that I should be able to "let down my guard" and let emotions rule. I forget that someone is always watching and taking notes.

The way that I approach my life is a lesson plan for my children in how to live.  What am I really telling my children?

My attitude often shows life as a burden, children as inconveniences, chores as drudgery.  My words reinforce the lesson.

I need to scrap this curriculum of negativity and teach them something new.

I want to tell them that life can be hard, but is always beautiful.  I want to show them that every moment is a gift.  I want to model a graceful attitude, a positive outlook.  I want them to know that every moment I serve as their mother is a privilege.

I know that change is possible: humble gratitude gives birth to joy, and joy witnessed is contagious.  When I model that joy, they will catch my disease.

 "A happy heart makes the face cheerful, but heartache crushes the spirit."
Proverbs 15:13 

How do you model a positive attitude for your children?

{It's Mindful Mothering Mondays, a day to take a deep breath and write out your mothering journey, whatever form it takes.  A day to link up for encouragement from others who are in this same phase of life.  A day of writing out the trials and triumphs and what you're learning right where you are, right now. 

You might post recent struggles or thoughts.  Maybe just a picture or a quote.  Or maybe you'll just come here and read the links that others post.  Whatever form your participation takes, this is a day for you.
We are all in this, together.  Together, we can encourage and build one another up, be honest with our shortcomings and strengthened by community to keep fighting the good fight.

I chose Mondays because what Mama doesn't need a little encouragement on a Monday? As such, I'll have the link up ready to go on Sunday night for you to begin submitting your links.

I hope you'll meet with me each Monday!  Here's what to do ~

Link up your post below.  Remember to put the link to the exact post you want to link, and not just your blog url. Include in your post a link back here so others who want to join in can find us!  And visit some other Mamas who have linked up.

Post the community graphic within your post, so people who are reading your Mindful Mothering post can come back here and find the rest of us!

Invite the writers of your favorite blogs to join in!

Share this meme with others on facebook and twitter.  This community is for all moms, and the more that participate, the more we will be able to enjoy!!}

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  1. Me too, me too! Thank you for good encouragement!

  2. I really like this post. This is something I've been meditating on a lot lately... I'm so grateful to read something like this that puts it into words so nicely. Especially "The way that I approach my life is a lesson plan for my children in how to live." I may just be quoting you from time to time on that one. :)

  3. Ok, that was convicting! Ouch!

    But really, thank you for that reminder. I needed to hear it today.

  4. I have been convicted of the same thing. Our attitudes are contagious...good and bad!


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